3 Mad Friends and A Hint of Rich Amber! :)

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It was one of those days when you feel like cursing yourself for being a strong independent and feminist of a woman! You just want to lie in bed, whine, do nothing and demand to be pampered and somewhere know that is you ask you shall get it too. Yes, yesterday evening was such an affair and no it wasn’t PMS. PMS is a different story for a different day.

I was driving people around me up the wall. Whining demanding stuff and then whining again that nobody was getting them for me. My pouts and drama though rare are VERY well known within the circle and they also know that I will not stop until I have their attention. The conversation after I had their attention went somewhat like this:

Me: Nobody loves me

F1: Hmmm, too bad, so what do we do?

Me *pout*: No this is where you say, aww baby of course I love you. let’s do this again. Nobody loves me.

F1 looks at F2 and then answers: I love you, if that counts.

Me: You missed the “awww” and the “baby”

F1: I’m not playing

F2: Ya man, give some concessions!

Me: ok ok – I want to be pampered

Blank expressions on F1 and F2. I sigh.

Me: What? Will you two pamper me or not.

F1 and F2 in unison : How?

Me to myself: Remind me again why I befriend them? Ah for moments like these, when I can take revenge.

Me: Nothing much, I just want you guys to get me some stuff.

F1: Ok, we’ll run to the store and get it and then shall dump you home to get you off our back.

Me: Ignoring the last part of your comment here’s what I want – I want to inhale the sweet smell of mild honey, I want to taste the sweetness of sherry, I want to be surrounded by the warm smell of butterscotch with a slight bordering of cream, I want to taste the exotic oak, I want to flare my nostril to flowery fragrance and have the sea dance on my tongue.

F1: Were you born this way or an overload of studies did this to you?

Me: Ha ha, very funny – now off you go and get me all this. Saying this, I stretched out like a princess. F1 looked clueless and F2, who had been quiet all this while has a wicked smile on his face.

F1 to F2: How can you smile at her bratiness? Where do we get all this – especially making the damn sea dance on her tongue in this city that is land locked?

F2: Brother, brother don’t bother – we shall produce just what her highness wants.

Me: Awwwww, I love you * I make the cute face that repels both of them *

As F2 started humming and walking towards his room, I wondered what is going on in his head. See, knowing him it isn’t possible that he would be happy to pamper me or would thank me for making him get out of his pajamas and drive around to pick up stuff for me. F1 followed him inside and though tempted I stay put – that’s what princesses do right?

F2 came back with a bottle in his hand, that was wrapped in a black cloth and three glasses. F1 trailed behind him like a lost kid. I looked at both of them quizzically and then pointing at the wrapped bottle exclaimed, “How can you think of drinking when you promised to get me all that stuff I listed out?”

F2: Shaanth Gadadhari Bheem. You shall receiver whatever you’ve asked for. Let’s have a drink first. Saying this he poured the malt drink in three glasses and offered each of us.

Me: What is this? Show me the label – I only drink the world’s finest scotch.

F1 *rolling his eyes* - Madam, please oblige us by taking a sip and then commenting on the quality. Did we ask you questions before committing to get you the things you want?

They had a point. I held the glass under the neon lights and the amber-colored liquid shimmered with golden highlights – assuring me that he was indeed worth giving a try. I took a small sip and held in on my tongue for 10 seconds to let the flavors burst through and then it hit me – the medley of the various flavours and the beautiful smooth taste.

Me: What is this, guys? It’s yummm!

F2 *grinning*: First tell us what all you could taste?

Me: Ummm, it smells woody and malty, and has a pronounced smell of sweet mild honey, butterscotch and flowers. Taste, umm let me see – malty, oak flavored, definitely pronounced sherry sweetness that bursts in waves. It is quite intense and balanced.

As I spoke I had closed my eyes to analyse the varied taste and enlist them. When I opened my eyes I saw F1 standing in front of me with a goofy smile on his face and almost thrusting the list (I had dictated earlier) in my face.

It didn’t take me much time to realise that I had ticked off all that I had demanded from them in just a small glass of the malty drink – scotch of course it was.

Me to F2: Very clever,  I am impressed. Now tell me what scotch is this.

F2: Why darling, the very best for you, Black Dog Centenary, one of the world’s finest scotch whiskey. He rattled as he took over the black cloth from the body of the bottle.

Me: Awwwww, ain’t you guys the cutest. Come let me cuddle you.

As I walked towards them they tried to escape – in the end we all fun wrestled and landed on the floor in a pile laughing our lungs out – Good times with Black Dog! :)

Mumbai Mondays 18 – Drops Of Sunshine On A Rainy Day, Is What Mumbai Is All About!

I have been putting this post off for a very long time. The reasons have been parents visiting, flu attacking, work piling – basically unending. However, to me this perhaps is the best round up post for the year gone by that I can ever write. Today as it pours here in Mumbai, I decide to write about the sunshine this city bestows on me.

Mumbai has always been a blessing, for this is the city that I am not ashamed to admit that has made me who I am. It gave me the inspiration to pick up the pen when I had lost out on life. It gave me my first experience of death and how to deal with the loss of GM, a life which I still don’t know how I am coping up with. It pushed me to Hyderabad as if to renew the unspoken vows me and Mistah had committed to each other and we did, marvellously that too *touchwood*. Nobody can take that away from you Mumbai, that even in a lost sea of faces I assume my individuality the best when I am with you.

Mumbai has infact been like GM to me – soothing me, helping me philosophise, making me understand the bigger goals of my life, picking me up from dump and urging me to fly. Hyderabad, on the other dad is like Baba – showing me the brutal facts about my life on my face, with no pretences and then telling me with a firm face that there’s no running away and that I have to deal with it. Moments like those, just the way I have spoken to GM in my head, fought with her for leaving me without a warning, I have craved for Mumbai too. I remember going for the night drives on the ORR at Hyderabad near the airport (we used to jokingly call it going back to the Flintstones ers) – try to make myself believe I was at the beach that lined my old house in Mumbai. The effect though soothing, even in my dazed state I knew I was just trying to fool my own self.

Mumbai has always been the point from where I start again after I give up. To think of it I have no womb connect with this place, yet there’s that invisible foster hand that soothes me each time. I found Tamanna here and then when I had to let her go Mumbai showed me why I was not ready and how it was for the best. Now, after I am back in its own miraculous way it introduced me to PGCAI or  in simple terms to the group that shall help me bring my little one home. Last week I had the first meeting with the founders of the group and it was such a wonderful one that before we knew we had spent 3 hours chatting as against our initial plan of a quick 30 minute coffee grab. The best is that I shall soon start working with a nearby adoption centre and so I have two years to have on hands experience and decide. Mumbai, does it yet again – where again will you have the option to try out mentorship and decide whether you are ready to be a parent.

Last year the pangs of separation were worse because of the discovery of Fibromyalgia and Degenerative Spine Disorder. (I don’t want to go in the details, my survivor story is up here) The worst was that I thought I had hit a dead end and would never bounce back. The only good thing that came of the fear was the fact that I worked my ass off at ISB and grabbed the ISB Award at the end of the year, a thing I feel I earned after tremendous hard work! However, inside I knew I was broken. Even when I came back here I felt that I would never give myself a fair chance in life again.

Mumba Devi smiled perhaps as I said this. Soon after I came here I met a wonderful lady who showed me what living with spirit is all about, a friend called in to say that Purple Pact can be registered, found another wonderful group and yes I found myself the best doctor ever! So were the rainy days over – nah! The pain stayed with me, the Salsa levels 3 and 4 remained a dream as I had to pull out and I became haunted by the thought of becoming obese (yet again!).

There’s something in the air here that refreshes me, there’s something about the Asian Koel that follows me ever since GM left, there’s something sweet about the salty lashes of the sea here that makes me never give up. So began yet another challenge of living with pain but defeating it. How could you let your dreams die, the city echoed. Yes, you cannot be cured but who said you cannot be healed, she reasoned.

True to that I took up yoga in my own feeble efforts, music therapy and color therapy. Found myself a healer, a darling one that too. Slowly, I began forgiving life for telling me NEVER for a lot of things. I read a lot, accepted my situation and started my own process of healing. I wouldn’t let the ghosts of the past affect me. Browsing through this post did make me sad and then this too – would they never come back I asked myself?

I made a pact with myself 2 months back that this post is an appreciation of that very pact. I am proud to say I can buy myself a McD sundae (that is the goal I set for every little promise I make to myself). After they threatened me surgery last year, made me give up everything I love – running, dancing, swimming, travelling, rolling in sand, I stepped in here, the city took one look at me and said “Woman you are not going to live in with me with that face!”

That was it, 2 months later here I am, with my research almost done for my next single title. Have my debut book paying me a good royalty *touchwood*, got a story in the Chicken Soup series, have a story lined up for a collector’s edition with the names of Javed Akhtar and Sashi Tharoor. The nonfiction manuscript of 700 pages is all set for print and shall hit the stands soon. NOW for the best part, after what seemed like ages am returning to the track – got my running permit for MUMBAI MARATHON 2013. I might not be a big deal for millions of others out there, but for me who wakes up with extreme muscle stiffness, who can’t bend beyond a point still, whose first step after a long sit down is still the most dreaded one, who courtesy fibro fog still throws the milk in the garbage and the empty carton back in the fridge and not to forget the excruciating pain, this means the world. Yes, I strongly feel that my resolve to always spread smiles, to surround myself with a job I love and to always count my strengths whenever life throws a cloud burst at me helped me. The lovely friends, the parents who know have taken up to research more about the condition and yes my back bone – my Mistah – can I ever thank them enough? No!

I miss GM today and her special name calling, can’t still mourn her for I know I have got her fiery spirit. Yes, but the time to rejoice is lined with restrictions. Needless to say the Mistah is freaked out and doesn’t approve of the decision to run, but then the man has a simple theory, do not give up because I do not approve, give up if you feel I make sense. So the pact is that I’ll keep doctor informed of every little discomfort, will NOT run if the training session is bad and yes even if I make it to the D day I will not run to win – if I feel after a while this is not for me, despite the preparation I’ll pull out stand by the stalls, hand out the others water and happily watch the parade.

This is my little sunshine on an otherwise cloud burst morning! Didn’t I tell you Mumbai rains always make me smile!

I know this is not a usual Mumbai Mondays post, but then Mumbai Mondays is all about Mumbai and me right, even Mumbai mush! :P <3

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Mumbai Mondays is all about seeing Mumbai and its surroundings through my eyes. It’s my take to introduce you to a city and its surroundings which I love, as I see it – alone and often with friends (we call ourselves the Mumbai Mad Caps). It’s a thread that goes live every Monday. I cover places randomly and welcome suggestions too. You can find more posts about Mumbai Mondays here.

Mumbai Mondays 16 – The ‘other’ face of Mumbai : Part III

The ‘other’ face of Mumbai is a multi-part series of all those places that though little spoken about, are (in)famous and form the integral part of Mumbai. The silence about these places to me seems like an attempt of the childish mind – that if not spoken they shall disappear. Sadly, the reality is different. Thus, when it exists I sought to explore it, in my own way. The other parts of the series can be read here and here.

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My heart was heavy after I left Kamathipura. I did not realize that such a short visit would leave such a huge impact on my mind.  I questioned a lot of things including my own life and whether all that I was doing was really enough. I questioned the attitude we display when we discuss our surroundings - conveniently ignoring the existence of such treachery and gruesome life. A silent prayer I offered, I recalled a book I read in recent times called Karma and realized that all that we really read in fiction and be touched has happened somewhere, sometime.

The sudden ruffle on my road caught my attention and I was told that I had entered “Mutton Street” in Muslim Mumbai or more popularly known as Chor Bazaar. I have heard about Chor Bazaar ever since I had stepped my foot here, however the people around me refused to me there citing “safety” reasons. An extremely popular flea market that sets up stalls from 3 AM at night and sells mostly pirated and smuggled goods, is one of the most popular ones in India. From old Bollywood posters, to expensive vintage items you can find it all here. However, just in case lady luck is not too pleased with you, so shall go home to realise that your “steal buy” is fake and when you come back the next day to complain, the seller will be no where to be seen.

The market is on all days of the week, but follows a special timing during Fridays – the day of special prayers in Islam. Housed just behind a mosque , when the chants of Azaan fill the air, you feel as if you are on the streets of a Arabian land. Yes, the smell of biryani filling the air and flaring your nostrils, making your stomach rumble does add to the feeling.

Yes, it is the same story of flea markets all across the world. So, what sets it apart? For me, the stories surrounding it holds the charm.

The timeline says that this market has been in existence since 1840 and then owing to the noisy sellers it was known as “Shor Bazaar”
(the Noisy Market) . However, it was colloquially re-christened  as Chor Bazaar courtesy the concocted British pronunciation of the original name and also the influx of stolen goods. Coming from a city which still houses the British influence to the core, this story seems very believable to me – however not exciting.

Is that all that that place holds, I asked Jitesh. He smiled at me. Already 2 hours into the tour, he had started to gauge my mind and habits when it came to discovering a nook and corner.

There’s a legend here“, he said smiling, almost teasing me to beg him to tell me.

And you are keeping that away from me?” I huffed, feigning anger.

Giving a child-like teasing smile he continued to tell me that the legend goes that if you ever lose anything in Mumbai (materialistic!) you can find it back in Chor Bazaar. Interesting concept right?  Jitesh also informed me, that it follows a story of the Victorian times. It was said that when Queen Victoria landed in Mumbai, her violin went missing. She was very upset and thus the King set out his soldiers to recover it. The soldiers found the violin in this very market – thus the name Chor Bazaar stuck to it.

Seeing me smile at the recount of this episode Jitesh asked me to speak my mind. I told him that it reminded me of the lore that makes round about the “Queen’s Necklace” – the popular name to given to the Marine Drive stretch of Mumbai. It is said that while taking a walk down the Marine Drive Queen Victoria was pleasantly surprised and the fluttering lights across the bay left her speechless. That night it is believed that she asked the King for a necklace that would glitter just like the Marine Drive. The word spread and people started referring to the stretch as Queen’s Necklace.

I would have happily believed the two lore(s) and lived in glee if Jitesh did not point out the fact that Queen Victoria never visited Mumbai. I was shocked and taken aback, but when the library at the Asiatic society confirmed this fact, I realized the power of hearsay and that “Chinese Whispers” do make up good stories.

 It was as if the heaven’s cracked up seeing my shocked face, as midst rain we moved towards Dhobi Ghat.

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Mumbai Mondays is all about seeing Mumbai and its surroundings through my eyes. It’s my take to introduce you to a city and its surroundings which I love, as I see it – alone and often with friends (we call ourselves the Mumbai Mad Caps). It’s a thread that goes live every Monday. I cover places randomly and welcome suggestions too. You can find more posts about Mumbai Mondays here.

Mumbai Mondays 15 – The 'other' face of Mumbai : Part II

The ‘other’ face of Mumbai is a multi-part series of all those places that though little spoken about, are (in)famous and form the integral part of Mumbai. The silence about these places to me seems like an attempt of the childish mind – that if not spoken they shall disappear. Sadly, the reality is different. Thus, when it exists I sought to explore it, in my own way. The first part of the series can be read here.

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As I started my journey with Realty Tours, all that played on my mind were the images of the slums that I had ‘Google’d’ or those glimpses which I had seen during my daily commutation to various parts of the city. However, I was surprised when my guide told me that we weren’t heading straight to Dharavi and instead I was in for some pleasant surprise.

This is how I was led to the city’s (in)famous red light area of Kamathipura, that houses the world’s oldest profession. According to the 1991 statistical figures of the Mumbai municipal corporation Kamathipura housed around 60,000 sex workers who did business everyday there, despite prostitution being clearly banned in the country as per laws. In 2001 the same body reported Kamathipura to have a sex worker population of around 8000. Smiles in the corner of the eyes are to be preserved, for a reduction in number no way meant that the sex workers had indeed diminished in numbers – research studies found just the opposite. There has been  a radical growth of the business of prostitution over the decade and earlier what was localized to only Kamathipura, now spread all across Mumbai thus reducing the localized number count.

When asked I was informed that majority of the women who take up the profession are unwillingly at the start. They are often brought into Mumbai being lured with dreams of good jobs – a fat sum being paid to their parents as a gesture of assured employment which later converts into debt which they are asked to pay off the moment they are introduced to this profession. The other categories are those who are introduced to this profession as a hands down – unable to protect their kids from the vices that surround them mothers give into the pressures and introduce daughters as descendants to their own regime. Reluctant at first, fate catches up soon with them and the acceptance of it too and thus soon after these girls counsel the other new ones in whom they see a glimpse of their past.

I quote out of my story from A Calendar Too Crowded (Gaining a body to gain a mind) - “A prostitute is doubly penalized - first by being forced into a position where she cannot make her own choices and then by hounded by the State for being a prostitute”.  I further wonder  there through the voice of the protagonist as to, “Why should a prostitute be ashamed of what she does all her life, but the society is never ashamed of what is has done to her?” 

I met up with one, who wondered out aloud why I was there. Whether I had goodies to offer her and whether I was looking for something (!) from her. She inquired about my salary without bashing an eyelid and despite me quoting a miniscule of my pay check, asked me what I did to earn so much? Taken aback I was, but then came to know that owing to the surge of prostitution the rates for a single encounter with flesh (passion doesn’t reside here) vary from as low as Rs. 50 to Rs. 3000. The figures vary depending on age, looks, ethnicity and yes the most obsessive of all criteria – young and virgin! If that disgusts you, let me tell you that young girls aged 9-10 years are the most coveted ones here and people are ready to shell out undisclosed figures to satisfy their pervert fantasies.

Law and regulatory protection did you ask? Ha, then let me tell you of a particular scene that I shall not forget, at least in this lifetime. A young girl barely 20 stood there breast-feeding her child, soliciting clients at a stone throw distance from the police station – all at 9 AM in the morning. The police there apparently are poised to protect the workers from atrocities in lieu of a commission fatter than the pimps. As for sticking to the laws, ah well they were never meant to be practical anyway. For in India ironically prostitution is not a crime, but soliciting clients is.

An anarchy we live I realized as I made my way to Dhobi Ghaat (the journey en route Chor Bazaar is for next week!)

From these windows a powdered face look down at me,
I searched for dreams and joy, but layers of masks are all I could see!

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Mumbai Mondays is all about seeing Mumbai and its surroundings through my eyes. It’s my take to introduce you to a city and its surroundings which I love, as I see it – alone and often with friends (we call ourselves the Mumbai Mad Caps). It’s a thread that goes live every Monday. I cover places randomly and welcome suggestions too. You can find more posts about Mumbai Mondays here.

Mumbai Mondays 14 – The 'other' face of Mumbai : Part I

Mumbai has always held fascinating memories for me. It has been the land of dreams, the land of strength and if I may say so the land where I feel I belong. The whiff of the sea from my old quaint little house in Worli, to the dance classes at Colaba, the karaoke nights at the Marine drive, the theatre evenings at NCPA, Mumbai teaches me how to live. However, is that all that makes up Mumbai? Not really, there’s Bollywood which doesn’t attract me, the page 3 parties where I don’t fit in, the certain kind of money-making snobbery which I can never catch up with and then there’s the dark side which we choose to be unaware of.

Abode to 1 mn people and spread of a square area of 1.75 kilometers Mumbai houses the world’s largest slum at Dharavi. It also gives shelter to one of the biggest sex worker zones in the country at Kamathipura. The open air laundry at Dhobighat near Mahalaxmi is the biggest of its kind in the World, yet lesser known. And then there’s the rooftop view that will not show you the Arabian sea kissing the Queen’s necklace, instead from there no matter where you see, all that shall be visible are tin roofs, and garbage dumps – Welcome to the other side of Mumbai.

The year 2008 saw us showcase to the world Slumdog Millionaire and this resulted in another feather being added to our hats – from being the land of snake charmers to being the land of slums. If I say this to a slum resident he would refute me outright by saying that slum tourism existed from much before 2008, in fact it has now almost been a decade that their children have been taught to keep at bay from the prying eyes of the white skinned and a few colored ones like me.

Accompanied by two friends and a guide I set out on Sunday to discover this face of Mumbai, the one that had heightened my curiosity for a long time now. It would indeed also be the most dreaded tour of my life that I was sure of, for while there was excitement of discovering a lot of new things I was skeptical about whether these tours actually contributed to the never-ending slum cycle across the country.

I chose Realty Tours and Travels as my preferred guide and it was a decision indeed well taken. My guide Jitesh was helping people tour slums and educating them about the true lifestyle out there for about 3 years now. Having grown up in a slum environment himself, when asked these tours were the only opportunity where he could show the world that slums though dingy, dirty and dark are not places that you should abhor. The people living there are just like you and me, constrained definitely, but they still live, work, grow families and harbor dreams. For Jitesh, there was an urge to show the world that kids from the slums too can make a mark and are not all about being dirty rag pickers – thus he decided to tell the story of his own home to visitors and hopes that one day Mumbai is known to be the land of strong people who can survive any adversity instead of being referred to as the preferred slum tourism destination.

Realty Tours shocked me when they said that out of the 40-50 people who sign up with them for these tours everyday, only 1% are Indians. Rest, travel from all across the world and stop here to have a glimpse of the reality Danny Boyle made famous.

This is the introduction to the multi part series of the ‘other side’ of Mumbai that I discovered on a lazy Sunday over 6 hours of travel.

Next week I give you the first hand glimpse of the (in)famous red light area – Kamathipura. For now, a glimpse of the backdrop I set out to study…

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Mumbai Mondays is all about seeing Mumbai and its surroundings through my eyes. It’s my take to introduce you to a city and its surroundings which I love, as I see it – alone and often with friends (we call ourselves the Mumbai Mad Caps). It’s a thread that goes live every Monday. I cover places randomly and welcome suggestions too. You can find more posts about Mumbai Mondays here.

Mumbai Mondays 13 – The "I am Back" post

I am a droplet of sweet water in your salty terrain,

I am the one you craved for in the rains,

I am the pair of eyes when you are lost in a crowd,

I am the bout of energy that makes you shout out aloud,

I guard the dreams in your eyes as my own,

I am the sky where in the clouds you have your wishes sown…

I am the laughter in a child, the guts of the young girl,

I am the buzz of Bollywood and the touch of the Western swirl…

I am there on a gloomy day whispering the words that you hate you hear,

I know for very well that they are all that you need to overcome your fear…

I say, Let the heartbreak come. For, no heartbreak is ever strong to break you down – I teach,

I let you embrace life, like a gush of wind, thus practising what I preach…

I am the early morning walk where you shall find the mosque greeting the temple,

I am the posh car who stops by to suddenly pick up the kids who often on busy roads fumble…

I am the auto ride where the driver makes you feel that he belongs to a different age,

I am the mind which holds lessons of dignity for all professions – now a lost page…

I show you the mirror, I teach you to dream, I help you discover the smile behind each sigh,

I say – You can check out anytime baby, but once here you can never leave for I am Mumbai

I have been dying to put this series up! Mumbai called me back in this Act II Scene II phase of life and I am elated! Mumbai Mad Caps had to be back too right? So many places I have visited in the past few weeks, so many things to write on. A chapter from an upcoming book, which fits in here perfectly, should I test waters?

All I can say is that I am glad to be back and couldn’t ask for more, for Mumbai you are the only one that can make my spirits soar!

My ‘partner in madness’ here we go again!

I am back again to your shore – I haven’t had enough of you Mumbai, I want more

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Mumbai Mondays is all about seeing Mumbai and its surroundings through my eyes. It’s my take to introduce you to a city and its surroundings which I love, as I see it – alone and often with friends (we call ourselves the Mumbai Mad Caps). It’s a thread that goes live every Monday. I cover places randomly and welcome suggestions too. You can find more posts about Mumbai Mondays here.

My mother decided to paint toe nails this Sabbath Day! :)

I am so sick of seeing “Send your mother flowers if you care” or “She was the one who stayed up all night when you studied and now gift her a blah blah blah” that I can burn down each such shop that screams commercialization!

Mother’s Day to me is special, don’t get me wrong just that I can’t take the commercialization crap and the fact that kids who are gifting their mothers cards et al, tomorrow refuse to acknowledge her choices as a woman, and she’s expected to sacrifice. 

My own mother went for trips with patter leaving us alone every year – thus infusing the concept of ‘lone time’. her funda was simple – I have a life too beyond being your mom. So true, the sacrificial image of mothers really irks me – sacrifice is there is each relationship that we live – however why is it only highlighted on Mother’s Day? Why is Father’s Day projected as a remembrance of all those fun things that we did with him as a kid – don’t fathers sacrifice too? 

Guess, this is indeed a Bollywood hangover – where Nirupa Roy’s and Rakhi’s have all waited for their Karan Arjun to come back and thus portrayed the ever so pitiful mother image. This Mother’s Day when The-Vault asked me to pen down something for them – I decided to ask Shashikala and Bindu to come back. After all, the need is to spread the word that mother’s also need a life of their own and they are not selfish if they demand it. Remember an old letter from my own self to the 6 year old me – I strive to tell her that Ma has a life too, beyond being our Mom!

Mother’s Day also meant me trying to tell the world aloud that we should also give a thought on the topic that i cover in my book A Calendar Too Crowded. My Mother’s Day story is based on a childless couple. It is all about craving motherhood by a woman whose husband lives in denial and says “it’s her fault’! A barren woman, termed as witch, excluded from joyous occasions, the one who cries every time the moon brings in blood – haven’t you met such a woman ever in your own life? Almost 1 in every 6 couples face problems in conceiving – it is a build up and not a “fault” – especially that of the woman! Let’s realize that this Mother’s Day, I pray!

Mother’s Day brought in special interviews at NaariSakhi and The Sip of Life – at both places I give out a bit more about my book, my inspiration and my favorites. The interview with Premium Woman discovers my relationship with my mother in detail.

A lot of mothers were found to be distressed with their kids and thus me and the ever so witty Ritu Lalit decided to de-stress such mothers with problems. We play Agony Aunts in a special column at Wrtierscafe and provide unique solutions to problems. Considering it’s Ritu – trust me laughs galore there! She blogs about the same on her blog too!

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In other news:

Pooja Pillai interviews me here and refers to her earlier review of the book. The Vault interviews me too about my book and more.

R’s Mom, Vanshja, Dhruv and Ajay humble me with their reviews, while Anuradha Goyal makes me want to rush and hug her. Anuradha Goyal is India’s largest individual repository of reviews and she’s one woman with hell lot of wit and guts. An avid travel blogger and a brilliant story teller whose warmth is so infectious. I can go on and one about her but will stop. Do discover her more at her Book review blog and also at her Travel Blog.

Another very close blogger friend and guide Sangeeta Khanna writes about my book here. One gutsy woman whose healthy living tips are to die for. Trust me, she researches so well that her diet chart will never fail you! They have worked for me (a detailed post coming up) – thus I stand true witness and swear by it!

Hyderabad Times features me in their Books section and we chit chat a bit! So does Mid Day – Their special Girl Scout review of the Book really warms my heart.

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More updates on my FB page - I respond to everyone. Also, am discovering the joys of Twitter and promise to follow you back if you follow @seasaga right now! :) .

Phew that was quite a Sunday for me, while my Mother did sit pretty in her red nail paint! :P

Of Summer and Melons and being the "Author of the Month"

Ohhh I am so confused! Indeed I am! I am. I am. It’s spring, a lovely spring says the Mistah! I smile and nod. Wondering wish he knew the heat in Hyderabad and could listen to me screaming in my head “Bleh! What Spring it’s summer – get the beer from the chiller!” .

Oh yes for me Summer is here, but then why do am I indulging in spring mush now, you ask? Guess, it’s because it’s spring where the heart lives and summer where the mind is, and you see there’s an ardent desire for both to be appeased! :P

Summer means melons, the cool juice with loads of ice. Ma taking the pain to ensure no seeds choke the throat, while we kids run, play an gloat – an old memory afloat! :)

But guess Writer’s Melon read my mind and announced on a lovely summer day that I am the “Author of the Month” for March and “A Calendar too Crowded” has been selected by them as the “Book of the Month” , yaaayyyy! :) :)

And thus, began a journey when Men are not allowed, Saturdays are made silly and then when Mistah calls indulging in love and a season rainy ;)

So all month they go on to feature my writings and muse, oh do step by there and don’t refuse…

A nice little portal with my scribbles and notes, yes I am indeed counting for your votes …

Thank you Writer’s Melon, it’s a pleasure and honor to be featured by you, and needless to say you have charged me up with a passion for writing, anew! :) <3 :)

I guess am on a heavy dosage of Rilke these days, thus the award-winning poetry (LOL!)  .. blame the Spring and Summer confusion please! ;)

(Re)Introducing the Mistah :P

*Mush alert, the hooting girl gang kindly excuse* :P

It’s been ages since I wrote here. I mean the actual “write-write” posts and not review updates. All of a sudden today I had the craving for my space. Well, the craving has been there for the past few days but I just did not know how to pen things down. I did not want to rant, for I am bored of my own rants (yes yes no matter how ROFL you go over them, they are all my poor brain has to endure these days!) and yes the fact that BFF’s thunder cannot be stolen till her highness updates her blog. So I was left with nothing, well nothing but to count my blessings for once ;) … and thus this ….

I decide to introduce the “Mistah”! Yup, Y as you all know him is being re-christened and re-introduced. Nah, this is not a re-entry of the look alike as in the Bollywood flicks for he never disappeared and secondly thank you, but no thank you I think one of his genre is enough! (ohhhh that’s a compliment in case you are reading this my man! ;P ). Why now? Why this? Mainly because I get random pings these days by people who are discovering my blog *gloats and floats that her bog is not lost after all* that who is Y and why this particular consonant to refer him on the blog?

Well Y is perhaps the most constant variable in my life. I never really liked X for the mystery factor it brings in and then when I met Y, nothing but the said consonant suited him. Also, as I tell people I always felt that he holds the answers to all my question’s in life. Those days of childhood when your dad is your hero, suddenly seemed to have competition when I asked him the toughest question I faced and he answered it without looking up from the laptop which sometimes I doubt is the biggest threat to my existence! (No asking me what was the question please! :P )

However, all said and done after the random pings I decided I had to change the name – mainly coz the consonant has come to become the only constant factor that keeps me counting my blessings in life. There are days when I give up on myself and find him waiting for me to come around. There are other days when I am mad at him for not goofing around or playing along and instead being the workaholic self, but then a few days where I am in my worst self make me realize that the “Mistah” is actually the best answer to life’s problems.

I love the way he stands by everything I do, and though he might not agree with all my passions in life guess I respect him for the respect he shows for my wishes. The way he lets me pursue my heart, fall and learn for he knows am too stubborn for own self awes me. That’s why perhaps that day when someone asked me why do you love him so much I couldn’t help but tell her that -

“because he takes me in an his princess, trains me as a warrior and then sets me free to fight my own battles in life. All the while standing by being my knight in shining armor but never hurting my ego or my respect.”

He survives the worst of me at his best thus needless to say he makes the best of me look like a cake walk – guess that’s the beauty of inter-twined fingers and squeezing of hands. It’s just been 3 strides in this journey of life and walking towards that horizon, but the best is that my Mistah, you make the sunset storms too look pretty after they have passed, like gasping over a perfectly captured photograph that doesn’t highlight blemishes of fury, but the strength of nature :) … I owe a lot to you, to those talks in my head when my own voice is drowned in self doubt, for ignoring those stupid mails which I am too ashamed to even look at the sent items folder (ohhh I’ll even write him a mail, if he’s sleeping next to me and I am upset over something – yea weird but me!), or those silent strength vibes you pass when I am too low to even say what’s wrong. And yes for the highs there are the M&M fights, the goofy long drives, the nonsensical arguments over youtube songs and yes the way you turn the tables around after each goof! (You do. you do, you do! :P )

Thus, this is for you Mistah – for you with whom I am sure I’ll discover all answers that life has in store for me and in my favor, for you have this uncanny knack of turning things around for me whenever I pout with a “Why me?” :)

And just so that you come back and ask me what the lyrics of the song mean, I post this. Have I ever told you I choose all my dedications to you in Hindi because I love interpreting them to you over a common language adding a bit of how I feel for you – yes I cheat, but bleh, what’s life without a bit of those add ons :)

*touchwood*

Tum Ho Toh …

I came to breathe, you gave me life…

I have nothing to say as I walk away,

Re-birth they say,

I nod.

 I am not leaving, just walking away a bit only to return to live a life, the seeds of which you’ve sown in my eyes! Don’t cry, for there’s a part of me, that’s you and I carry that along in the glint of my smile.

“We miss when we remember, we remember when we forget, habits just live on through breath – you are the habit called LIFE, Mumbai!!!”

Back again soon. Till then, Bhalo Theko* majha** Mumbai

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* – Stay Well (Bengali)

** – My (Marathi)