Blogadda review 10 – I let Archana down…

Quite often after I have put aside a book, thinking it’s not my cup of tea, I wonder if the author actually tried to convey something which I had missed in the pages I read. I guess I have always, as did Archana in her review. But then, I will not defend myself or my two years of research that went into this book.

The grammatical errors? Mixing of tenses? I look for my editor and surprisingly she smiles.

But then again, Archana does give me a lot of food for thought and yet again how womanhood and feminism are confused. How smoking is seen as a fault and how spoilage of tender minds are overlooked.

I am still pondering if I will ever allow my child to do this?

I have a one year old whose idea of waking me up is to hit me squarely in the eye. Does this mean that he doesn’t “care” for me?”

Or if smoking is a fault?

“At the age of twenty-six, it was all my fault that many a worthy suitor refused to marry me because of my bohemian lifestyle and because I occasionally smoked.”
Gender has nothing to do with it, but if it is not “all her fault” for smoking, whose fault is it?”

Thanks for the review Archana:
http://readingaftermath.blogspot.com/2012/01/calendar-too-crowded-sagarika.html

Blogadda review 9 – Radhika highlights "silent screams"

I love her Blog Name (Silently we Scream) and the Blog description (It’s all about the society) … thus when the person behind this reviews your book, it’s indeed special and very heart warming.

Loved the way she understands the theme behind every story and seeks to highlight them for the other readers…

My favorite line? -

“This book is a must read for everyone, definitely for all girls, not because you can relate to it but because after reading it you know that you deserve to live a life the way you want to and not submit to unacceptable things, there is nothing wrong in living for yourself. It’s our right as a human being.”

And what has floored me is this quote at the end of her post:

“A woman has to live her life, or live to repent not having lived it.”
                                                                                                      – DH Lawrence.

You’ve taught me a lot through your review Radhika, THANK YOU and BIGGGGG Hugs! :)

Full Link: 
http://silentlywescream.blogspot.com/2012/01/calendar-too-crowded.html

Girl Gang Review – Uma makes it sound divine! :P

OMG OMG OMG, her post tag has my name!!!! Yes, that was my first reaction before even reading the review. I had waited for each member of the girl gang to review it and so my excitement may be excused please!

This review I think compensates for the food parcel i am still awaiting Uma :P

I love everything about it, especially the fact that somewhere she has read my mind in one of the stories and mailed me asking if she was right or not. How can you not be right my friend, for you held my hand during the struggle and lived every moment of it too through my rants.

I love it how she remembers how I remembered the posts which struggled to make a mark in motherhood – where they took a pledge to break the bad blood myth. Yes, Uma and Deepti, Behind those Whispers in indeed for you!

I can comment on each line, but my hands freeze when i read my favorite ones over and over again -

“Is it the calendar that is too crowded, Sagarika ??? I think it’s the mind that is crowded and that needs to open up with sensitivity and acceptance to the flaws of humanity. It’s the mindset about myths and customs that need to open up and change for the better.”

You couldn’t have read the message more clearly Uma. Thank you sooooo much! You don’t know how much this review means to me!

BIG BIG Hugs!

Dunno why, you surface again and again …

Dear Tamanna,

It feels like ages now that I am typing a post on you. Dunno why today of all days I chose you write this. It was a restless night the last one – you constantly peeking into my thoughts and asking me yet another set of questions, which made me curse Y and made M roll her eyes.

I am sure you remember me – yes I am confident on that, for I think nobody else has been so strict on you. Do you still visit A didi my baby? I think not, but I don’t blame A too, for I know how you have a way to get out of the things you don’t like.

Why this after so many months? Have I not missed you at all in these past 9 months? 

Though it might seem that I haven’t, the truth lies deeper. In fact to be blatant I tried to forget you, cut off all ties, for somewhere while leaving I knew that I will not be able to do justice to you, for I wasn’t the formally adopted mother you see.

Then, why does life over and over again and again make you surface before me. Each talk of mentorship makes me go back to my struggle, to see a little girl scribble takes me back to your stubby fingers.

And you know the worst, when Y says he wants both of us to go to Mumbai and meet you, I freeze. Out of fear that he might just discover that I truly haven’t been the mother I promised to be!

The book, I say is my first born, does that mean that you were not my own? I wish I could make you read those pages, which you inspired me to write. The little girl whom I discovered through her drawings or the interpretation of the various ones lying strewn around. Remember that is how we broke the ice, playing the game of what the drawing says?

Today is Saraswati Puja, last year I craved to introduce this day to you, but then GM needed me more and this year you seem too far away to be a part of my stories.

But somewhere in the corner of the hearts, as the chants fill the air and I put my book at her feet, I also put an old school course book beside it, and mentally say your name.

Tammy, I may not have been all that I promised myself and Y to be, but I know that I had tried. Dunno why the questions and your face surfaces today, but the fact that you are always there whenever I discuss my highs and my lows shows how much you have touched my life.

Rants of a helpless confused and caught in between mentor-who-never-was-a-mother this is!

Bhalo Theko aar Sukhe Theko*,

Love

S

* – Be good and be happy

P.S: Uma need I say more? 

Blogadda Review 8 – Fantastic Feathers :)

I never expected a person who likes reading the happy love stories and self confessedly belongs to the Chetan Bhagat genre to like my book so much. But, am absolutely floored by this review.

She warms my hearts when she says,

“Basically, I am not interested in books with serious note and love light reads like Chetan Bhagat’s. But, from the day I completed reading introduction and first story, I felt like its worth reading. “

Thanks so much for saying that it’s a must read for women! You made my day!

Full Link: 
http://fantastic-feathers.blogspot.com/2012/01/calendar-too-crowded-book-review.html

Blogadda Review 7 – Swarnali reviews

A golden review from the blog, whose header I have fallen in love with.

Loved every word, but to give you a peek -

Sagarika Chakraborty does not intend to be the champion to the women who are not allowed to fight for themselves, she attempts to bring to us the realities that happen every day, things that we have taken for granted. She puts a finger into our eyes and asks us if we should continue letting this happen or try to make a change. 

Thanks so much girl!

Full Link: 
http://swarnalidreams.blogspot.com/2012/01/book-review-calendar-too-crowded.html

A few things that on this wintry nights warm my heart …

When a blogger after reviewing my book says it was a sheer bliss for her …

When Hindu lists it under the “New Arrivals” book list along with the likes of Nitish Kumar …

When Telegraph, lists the book launch event as a must attend one over the weekend …

When an event has my name on it …

When a friend calls to say her Dad (who’s reading the book) wants to meet me…

When BFF’s MIL orders 3 extra copies to gift her friends …

When Ma and Didi sit with me to plan what should I wear tomorrow :) :)

The only thing missing is the warmest Hug from my Y dearest! Can’t wait for him to come home and read all this! :)

Blogadda review 6 – DI speaks her mind :)

She’s the one, who dreads to come online for I tend to bombard her with everything – gossip, drama, rants – EVERYTHING. But then again she’s from the BFF gang whom I know no matter what, will stand by me – but yes wouldn’t bat an eyelid to express her disapproval if she doesn’t agree to my views.

Thus, with such a friend you are always wondering how they will appreciate your baby for you know they know how to keep work and relationships apart. Yes the wait to the review was a nervous one and knowing her am sure she enjoyed torturing me to the fullest! :P

But then guess with such friends ONLY you have the opportunity to be amazed when they understand your work like no other. How much she has really gone into the book is evident in these lines:

“The book deals with the oft spoken and written about theme of womanhood (as the blurb states). I wondered why it didn’t say ‘gender bias’ or ‘inequality’, and instead used the blanket term ‘womanhood’. I had to read all the 22 stories to understand that. And I guess that’s what makes this different from other feminism based titles I have read.”

Our favorites match and I love her critical points too, but then to put down everything here would be unfair to her. So as i squish her with the warmest hugs possible, why don’t you move your lazy bum and run to read the full review?

Full Link: 
http://foreverinbluejeans.wordpress.com/2012/01/25/a-calendar-too-crowded-book-review/

Blogadda Review 5 – Scribby Scribbles :)

It’s always an exciting thing to get a review from one of your BFFs! But then the girl gang God bestowed me is just like me and sometimes that makes me more scared than excited! :P

As crazy as me, this lady would insist on being unbiased and is known for her structured reviews, which made me sit in a corner and bite my nails when she messaged me “done”. Aaah if you think she messaged me the review too, stop wait and re-consider the fact that this is my girl gang – there has to be drama.

So as I rotted in anticipation, she giggled like a little one, but that was only till she passed on the gloat to me as I read this -

“The book is about womanhood, agreed but it is in no way written from a feminist point of view. Often we confuse womanhood with feminism; this book clears that cloud of confusion.”

I couldn’t have had a better dreamy review! This one line sums up how much she’s grasped what I so want to convey in my humble attempts!

Thanks Scribby – sooper tight hugs! :)

Full Link: 
http://thisandthatmomentsoflife.wordpress.com/2012/01/25/a-calendar-too-crowded/

A very critical take on Calendar Too Crowded (no regrets though!)

He had warned me before he put up the review saying that “it would do me more god than harm”, but I insisted that he be brutally honest. I thoroughly feel that a writer grows with critical takes that rip apart the novel and with soothing voices that go on to rejoin the torn apart pages.

I don’t agree with what he says and refute a few of his views too, but somewhere much before I read his review I promised myself that I will not get into this debate. What’s the fun in justifying why the protagonist chose Shikhandi and not leave it to the imagination of the readers or refuse to lead them to wonder whether Amba too had a story untold.

But I want men to read this review and then wonder where womanhood ceases to be too feminist an issue, and whether it’s good to remain perpetually confused about the differences between the two and just tag everything as being gender biased?

Thanks Subbu for this very thought-provoking review! :)

Full Link: 
http://satyasurya.wordpress.com/2012/01/25/a-calendar-too-crowded-a-review/